On Being Seen
Life is this fine balance of wanting to be seen.
And wanting to matter.
And wanting to not be seen.
And wanting to not matter too much.
The shifts are real.
You might think being on reality TV meant I really wanted to be seen.
But the reality is that pendulum was swinging in the other direction.
I wanted to matter.
But not be seen.
I didn't want you to know me.
I just wanted to make a difference.
But - the the backswing - there is so much power in being able to be seen.
To make a difference.
While I don't always enjoy being seen.
I LOVE seeing.
Today, I encourage you to see someone you don't normally see.
I don't mean go look at them.
Or hug them.
Or say, I SEE YOU.
I mean, REALLY see them.
The way I do with my little guys.
The other day, I was reading some of their writing about Yoga.
It was beautiful
And totally more than I expected.
I began writing them little notes of how proud of them I am, while I was editing.
I began to see them in the moment for their incredible worth, rather than the things we still have to learn.
"I like yoga," she said, "Because when my brain is full, I get to empty it and be calm."
(We watch a lot of Cosmic Kids Yoga, with Jaime, and this is a quote referencing her, that just made my heart smile.)
"When we hear your voice, we know it's your voice, and we listen and our teacher plays it louder so you are the loudest person in the room."
Do you see what I see? The kid who has a lot of thinks. Who can focus on the sound of a voice for 20 minutes.
I just saw them.
The power of being seen.
Is almost the power of being loved.
But it's different.
When we take the time out of our day to value one another.
We create change.
We see other things with more value.
Isn't the sky bluer?
And the sun warmer.
And the moments that will surely come.
When we question our worth.
If we're doing it right.
If we even matter.
Because, in this moment, we mattered.
Matterers, see someone today.
Really see them.
And then see what happens to your day.